Love. It’s a word that often carries the idea of strong affection and deep emotion. February is a month when expressions of love become more visible—not only among those in romantic relationships, but also among anyone who feels moved to show care and appreciation for the people in their lives. It’s important, though, that the expression of love doesn’t become another source of pressure—especially the idea that February 14 is the one day when this powerful feeling must be perfectly demonstrated. Each of us deserves to find our own ways to give and receive love, and to share it in ways that help us feel seen, heard, and validated. For many, February comes with certain colors and familiar symbols: red flowers, pink cards, and messages of love and intimacy. For others, this month may not look or feel that way at all. Society often tries to place everyone into the same box and expects us to follow the same script. But these expectations—including sexual and relational pressures—can also contribute to increased loneliness, anxiety, depression, and even performance anxiety. For some, this time of year can be especially difficult, and it’s important that we hold space for that reality with compassion. Love and relationships exist on a spectrum. What matters most is that every relationship style is grounded in respect, consent, and care for everyone involved. Social norms can sometimes be restrictive around sexual and emotional expression, but part of self-validation—and self-love—is feeling empowered to choose relationships and experiences that foster confidence, safety, and a true sense of agency. Consent should always be freely given, never coerced. We all deserve joy and pleasure in ways that are safe, healthy, and affirming. At the end of the day, love starts from within. Let’s use this month—and not only this month—as a reminder that you deserve to offer love to yourself in ways that align with your own understanding of self-care and self-respect. Let’s also remain open to receiving love from others when it is meaningful and genuine. And perhaps the greatest challenge of all is learning, when we can, to extend love even toward those who try to hurt us. With appreciation, Dr. Manuel Fernandez